A Rush

They say not to rush into things. And now I fully understand why.

 

Before the new year I decided to use the Tinder app as a means of meeting new guys to have great conversations with. Eventually one guy I thought was very funny and sweet caught my attention and our interactions became through text as opposed as through the app. Eventually he asked me on a date which at the time I was trying to avoid dating but I went anyways as I did think he was sweet.

 

Our first date was great and slightly awkward, he ran into a friend from a while back who introduced us to his baby. After the date he suggested seeing each other on back to back nights, which took me off guard but I attempted to "go with the flow" (this concept I heard is 1) used for reasoning to get into pants faster and 2) girls don't go with the flow they're supposed to set the flow)

 

Anyways, after two dates which I thought were quite reasonable I decided to overcome my own hesitation when he invited me to his house warming (he just moved to a new apartment). Upon arriving and leaving his house warming of about 12 people he talked to me about twice: once to ask if I wanted a drink and another to ask if it was okay for him to go to a strip club.  I guess this should have been a bright red flag for me. But I am quite optimistic, naïve and ignorant.

First date of the new year!

 

I'm pretty excited as this guy seems quite substantial, although I've met him through Tinder (this app has some intense negative social connotations to it). He's made no suggestive sexual comments but has been super sweet with his compliments in what seems to be genuine and has a heightened appreciation for concern that is directed to him. He has it together but is not loaded. He seems to work hard for what he wants and is not privileged enough to coast through life - a benefit I feel we have in common. Best of all, he is striving to make himself better through over all self improvement physically and intellectually. He also has a background in social work which I feel gives us something else in common. I'm trying not to build him up here but just drawing the commonalities so as to point out the reasons behind my date choices. It's never wealth or just appearance that is the deciding factor for who I date, which I am learning is contrary to most girls I've talked to in Vancouver. The substance of conversations and shared interests commonalities that may shape our perspective is something that I look for when dating and of course attraction is essential.

 

Fingers crossed!!